I very much enjoyed this book and learned a lot by reading it. The author says people have five different ways to feel and express their love: quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Although we're born with a primary love language, we can learn a second language so that our mate's needs are met. DH and I talked about this book a lot and learned more about ourselves and our marriage. After reading this book, I realized DHs acts of service (washing dishes, cooking meals, etc.) was his way of showing his love and not trying to show I was incompetent (what I thought it meant prior to the book). I'm primarily words of affirmation and now we each speak some of each other's language and recognize when the other is showing love. It's really snowballed into both of us feeling we're giving and receiving more love.